Throwback to my First Orgasm during sex Story

Okay, so this was way before  I got obsessed with sex, you can read that story here?

Despite what my language might suggest, I was content with sex without orgasms. 

It always felt like a performative act that if wasn't achieved took a hit to my partner's ego.

In one night he changed my mind about orgasms. 

He showed me the glory of how it feels to pulsate around someone and writhe through waves of pleasure while touching another person in an act of deep intimacy. 

It happened so quickly and so effortlessly, without a strategically placed finger or a beckon for it at his lips.

It was pure passion and my willingness to surrender to the spotlight I had always shied away from, a spotlight I drew closer to solely because he didn't ask it of me. 

He got me. 

He taught me that surrender does not mean I have been conquered.

He taught me that sex was a walk, not a race.

A combination of the sensuality of our act, the intensity, and how perfectly he fit within me made sex feel like nothing I ever felt before. 

He was like nothing I ever felt before. 

I let go. He didn't speed up his stroke at my center's fluttering, instead, he kept steady in his movements. 

Slow, deep, purposeful strokes. 

My legs were on his shoulders, he bit my calf muscle and moaned in response to feeling me grip around him. '

There we go baby,' he whispered against me. And I fell, surrendered to it and him completely. 

I was his.

The point is;  for  us women reaching orgasm is all about letting go of control, and this concept can be a little frightening for some. 

If you have a girl I know you are very considerate of her, and you might appreciate these guides. 

Then you will have done all that you can and after that I would advise not bringing the subject up again for quite some time. 

If you keep asking about it this may bring about a certain amount of performance anxiety and she will certainly not be able to let go. 'A watched pot never boils' comes to mind!

xoxo,

Like I said above, this was before my sex addiction, you can read about How I got obsessed with sex here?